Purposeful or Persuadable?

Without prioritized focus…

…every good intentioned person can persuade us to say yes to their need or want before we realize we’ve just given away all of our time to other people’s goals and priorities, leaving no time for our priorities. 

Without prioritized focus…

…every good cause or good idea can persuade us to say yes. Only later, often exhausted and suffering from burn out, we realize we said no to what was most important to us with that yes.


When we are not 100% sure what our priorities are, we can be easily persuaded into giving our time to the priorities of others, taking away time we intended to give to our priorities . 

It happens every day…

  • People ask us to use our time to do something important to them
  • People ask us to give our time to help them accomplish a priority goal for them

These are often good and valid things we are asked to do. We might even feel guilty saying no to the requests.

But what if someone asks us to give them time already committed to…

  • A job
  • A Dr. appointment (or other appointments)
  • A committed date on the calendar

We never feel guilty saying no to requests of our time that conflict with a firm commitment – and THAT is the key. We have to treat our life priorities like a commitment vs something we hope to do.

When we lack unshakable, prioritized focus, we are easily persuaded and veer off course. Are you purposeful or persuadable?

Eventually it all catches up with us…

  • Our family starts to feel neglected
  • We start to feel overwhelmed
  • Our desired personal and business results seem harder and harder to achieve


To use our yeses and our nos on purpose, we have to:

  1. Define the results we desire to accomplish
  2. Schedule time for the actions and work required 
  3. Commit to showing up for ourselves
  4. Take the action 
  5. Say no to what takes us off course

With intended results defined and purposeful determination to take the actions required, we are empowered to say YES or NO with confidence and without guilt or regret.

We are purposeful…not persuadable!

With prioritized focus, we have…

  • More energy
  • More joy
  • More results


Use these self coaching questions to help define your priorities and be more purposeful than persuadable.

  • What do I want to accomplish but don’t have time to do it?
  • What’s getting in the way?
  • How eager am I to make the adjustments that will give me more time for the things that I want to accomplish?
  • What is one thing I can delegate, toss or delay for now to make room for my focused priorities?
    • What else can I delegate, toss or delay?
    • Anything else?
  • Set a time and date (if not now) to define the following for yourself:
    • Define the results we desire to accomplish
    • Schedule time for the actions and work required 
    • Commit to showing up for ourselves
    • Take the action 
    • Say no to what takes us off course

Need help? Let’s connect

Living with your heart on fire and keeping the fire out of your hair is not a special skill or ability that some have and some do not, but sometimes we need help stoking the right fire. One of the things that sets my heart on fire is helping others sort and sift through their thoughts, find focus, and develop habits that will serve them well. {stoke a heart fire – not a hair fire!} Wanna chat? 

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